So maybe the real answer is priorities and being clear with myself. When after a few decades of no contact I reconnected with my oldest friend the French teacher, I began thinking about going. Having her relate her experiences during and after each journey got the juices flowing. And after all, she is my personal travel resource for Paris in particular, and France in general.
Somehow I got it in my head to use frequent flyer miles to make the trip "free". I had a few thousand miles on United, but not enough for a return trip. So I started accumulating more by transferring points from other loyalty programs when possible, and eventually got a United-branded credit card with a bonus of several thousand points for signing up, plus points awarded for all purchases. This works really well when I use the card for travel and other expenses reimbursed by my company. Win!
But of course there is a dark side. What capitalist pig business wouldn't get you coming AND going? As I approached the number of miles required for a free return ticket (30,000 as I recall,) the amount changed - the number of points required, that is. I watched it go up from 30K to 40K and eventually 60K. I detect bastages in the marketing department!
When my son moved to Paris for work I was thrilled for him - and myself, of course. Free lodging! So that became a key element of the plan. Sure I could pay for lodging, but that would have meant a shorter stay. I may never be able to afford to go again, so staying for longer than a few days, if at all possible, is important to me.
That also means I can relax. No need to cram everything into a few days. While I will succumb to visiting at least a few of the tourist sites that everyone considers de rigeur (for a reason to be
And is there a better major city to people watch? I am certain there will be disagreement on this, some of it centring around certain beaches in Brazil, Cannes, etc. I'm not allowed on those beaches -that has nothing to do with my current parole stipulations.
The real reason for visiting at least some of the usual touristy sites is that if you don't, you catch hell from everyone. "What?!? You didn't go to the Eiffel Tower? What are you, a commie pinko?" (Someone knows who he is ...)
"You didn't even try to get to La Sainte Chapelle!!! I'm no longer your oldest friend!!!"
Ok, I'm using a bit of hyperbole to just say my aim is balance.
Back to why the delay ... more than financing the trip, the other factor that kept me from booking for such a long time was the reality of mobility issues. Paris is a walking city, which is a significant part of its appeal. That's hard for me at the best of times. But after a few years of weight gain, combined with reduced flexibility due to a sedentary job, I knew I could end up going and being disappointed.
I decided to turn that into a challenge - make Paris an absolute goal so that it became my motivation to get in shape. I started that process near the end of December. I went back to my physiotherapy provider, going twice a week for a few weeks to kick start me and provide instructions for continuing at home. Once I booked the ticket this weekend, I was fully committed.
Once Christmas was past, I began reducing my caloric intake. As I got more flexible I was able to walk more easily, which helped with losing weight, which helped increase flexibility, which helped ... the opposite of the vicious circle.
My goal is another 10 pounds loss minimum, but I'm not fixated on that. In fact my real long term goal is another 15-20 pounds. I don't know if that's realistic, but we will see. I'm not going to defeat myself by trying to grab the unobtainium. Anyone who does that usually ends up regressing, sometimes ending up in a far worse situation.
Once the weather warms up a bit more here at home and daylight lingers longer, I will go on walking photo excursions of increasing duration. I may even buy a cheap-ish bicycle and get back my cycling chops.
I hear people ride bikes in Paris and they can easily be rented. The bikes, that is, not the people. Well, some of them can be rented, but that's not permitted.